Ok, have had some time to 'sleep off' the anxiety & confusion, & to take many of your suggestions & experiences to heart.
One of *MY* problems is, that aside from here on this site,
when I try to talk about her behavior or temperament/personality,
I'm getting told it is because ***I***am doing something wrong, or that Tessa is sick.
I've been told, many times in the past weeks, that Tessa would be different if I figured out what I'm doing wrong, &/or figured out what her health issue is.
I've been told that a dog is a dog is a dog, & TM's are no different, & since she's not pure-bred, it wouldn't matter anyway.
I've also been told I must be scaring her, or dominating her too much, or doing something to dissuade her from normal puppy behavior, & that the issue lay solely with me & my interactions with her.
I was even told by one person, that trains & shows shepherds, that the "ancient breed" TM being different is just a bunch of hype to market the breed that doesn't have any business being a pedigree & they don't really have any special or different genetics, he said it's just a mutt from Asia.
This man is a bit of an arrogant ass. He caught me totally off guard.
Usually, I avoid him, but he butted into a convesrsation I was having with others, & it really got to me, made me feel pretty upset, & embarassed, because some of my friends really think he is an expert. (I do NOT).
Ultimatley it pissed me off!
--His shitty & snyde comment did lead me to doing some research into TM genetics, & I see he is so grossly mistaken, & I wonder how a person who trains dogs, specifically shepherds, can think that there is no difference between breeds, be it TM, poodle or otherwise.
Normally, I am pretty thick skinned, & I usually beat to my own drum & outside influence doesn't affect me.
At the end of the day though, I'm conflicted, because Tessa's behavior is SO DIFFERENT, that I have doubts, & outside influence IS getting to me.
This is my baby we're talking about here, my little ball of love, my real life muppet, & if it's a possibility that I am the one doing something wrong to make her behavior odd, I want to know what it is.
When I read here, & it is a different world--people who have TM's are saying "yes-that's typical-nothing out of the ordinary", with many of you even joking about it. Even preparing themselves before adopting for the difference in personality.
That is the part that is beginning to hit home, I'm starting to have the "ah ha!" lightbulb moments.
Could just be a small group of people online ARE correct & know what they are talking about, because they have TMs and know the breed, & that there is a HUGE difference in personality/temperament/behavior--
I'm thankful to each of you because I am not getting dismissed or flamed while I am experiencing this whole 'dilemma'.
Also am thankful I'm not discluded because she's not pure-bred.
Fact is, I'm trying to regain my footing & get grounded about all of this.
No, I was not prepared for Tessa's personailty, & I think there is no way I could've been considering the circumstances.
I expected a rottie cross, & was prepared for that, 100% (or so I thought lol).
Things are coming into perspective.
It's a process, & I'm starting to see that while this may just be a small group of people nowhere close to me, & online--
You all just may be right about Tessa.
This may well be who she is, & I need to stop blaming myself, or looking for what is wrong, because that's all I have been doing, & it's been keeping me up at night.
Tessa is healthy, she's not sick.
I'm not dominating her or making her not want to play.
There isn't anything *wrong* with Tessa at all.
Tessa is different, & it's not a fault of mine, it's just rare chance occurrence, she behaves like she should.
In most ways, I do feel Tessa is a gift.
Fact is, Tessa is more well behaved & even than anyone else's pups or dogs that I've had her around thus far--& that's a LOT of pooches. I pray she stays this way. In some ways, I also worried her temperament is too good to be true.
Other people are pushing their beliefs down my throat that there must be something wrong with her, or me, & I was buying into it.
It's time for me to re-assert myself, & get down to business, I shouldn't have doubted myself in the 1st place.
Tessa is an old soul, right down to her very genes, & very very different than any pooch I've ever experienced.
Regular dog owners on the street aren't going to have a clue about it. The sooner I accept this as fact, the better.
I believe in my heart that this was meant to be, for Tessa & I, just as it is.
I want to experience this journey & see where it takes me, because that's where we are supposed to be.
I want to learn from the TM owners what it is that I need to be doing.
I do not want to re-home Tessa, her home is with me.