Re: Sit down with "boss"...Anyone done it?
DD, i am a team leader, and there were rumours that i had been telling folks, that i will sack a particular staff member, that i had said i have a 3 strike rule, then he'll be gone. That i have been aware of multiple mistakes and was going to put up with it no longer. Several staff, whilst not really keen on 'dave' shall i call him, were anti me, the new manager for my unprofessionalism.
Guess what?
I have never said one of the things. I dont know folks enough to be talking like this to them. This sorta conversation i save for my husband, not my colleagues! yet, apparenty i have done all these things, said all these things, threatened all these things.
I asked for a meeting, face to face with Dave.
In that meeting, i reflected the rumours i had heard, and asked if he had heard them too? he had. AND he was worried about his job. He has a wife and 2 children. And was sufferring, not sleeping, hadnt been able to warn his wife, the pay could stop anyday now.
That meeting was gold.
HE left that meeting, on good terms with me, knowing that should i ever have any issue with his work, HE would be the first to know. Not his peers, my colleagues. HIM. We would work through it together till resolved. I dont fire people willy nilly, as that would be illegal. Explained the laborious disciplinary process i would follow and have to follow. BUt that at no point, was i even aware his work was not up to standard, as the quality of his output was one of the best i had.
That rumours, are sometimes rumours, not based in fact.
We also discussed, what might be the motivation of his peers, in suggesting Dave was in trouble. What was the effect of being told you were losing your job? for ? and when? Who would say such hurtful things to him? and why?
We both came to the same conclusion.
BS and Shit stirring amoungst cunts.
To allow folks to play their games of BS and to sit back, relax, coz i and his performance are on very good terms indeed.
As a manager, having quashed this rumour, at the source of the victim, as this is how i saw this person, a victim of bastards being bastards. I am less favourable with the BS. Go figure?
Sometimes you cant win friends, but you can win professionalism, personal values get upheld, and at the end of the day, i spend time with authentic, genuine folks, i choose carefully, before i allow them into my world.
Because, in my 50's, i finally accepted, that 99.9% of the working population i work with, i would never allow in my home. As our values are different. Too different for me to pretend i like em.
Thanks
