When does it end?

[Hector]

Okay so my car is a 92 toyota camry. 82k miles well maintained, my dad's car that he gave to me 4 years ago. About 2-3 months ago, had tune up, ignition wires replaced, etc that was $800. The shop had told me I needed a transmission flush and rear struts replaced back then. Okay fast forward, it's in the shop (a different one, my co-worker's recommendation, but I should have just stuck with my previous shop) now getting that done. This is $750. Okay, now they ask me about the timing belt and I'm like the records are in the glove box and that was changed at 30k before I got the car. Then this morning they tell me there's a leak at the oil pump. I said okay so approx. how much is that if they need to replace it and it's like another $800-900. So I called my old shop and they tell me hard to say without seeing car, but maybe $500-600.

Now it's going to be like almost $2500 in maintenance.....sorry just needed to vent hahaha

 

[angelbears]

Merry "fricking" Christmas!~

That really sucks. Do you know anybody that knows about cars that can call and talk to the shop.

 

[Hector]

A good friend/coworker of mine suggested this shop because he gets his car fixed there and he knows the guy and says he does good work. He's related to the guy. The reason I switched was because my coworker said they would probably be cheaper, but it turns out to be the same cost. I called up my previous shop and talked to the guy and they didn't have good news for me either. I like the old shop because they seem friendly and very knowledgeable. We've decided to monitor the leak and I think I'm going back to my old shop because they are pretty reasonable on their prices and gets work done faster and they are professionals and they're done the street from my house so I don't have to borrow my coworker's car again lol.

 

[powergc]

Ugh, that really sucks Hector! Cars are a real pain in the ass sometimes! They always seem to be breaking down or having issues! But we can't live without em! (Especially those of us in areas with NO public transportation!) The answer to your question, "When does it end?" ... Seems like never!

I am VERY fortunate that my dad is able to fix most of my car issues... he isn't a mechanic, but an engineer with an ability to figure most things out.

Good luck with the car... if only Santa would bring you a new one!!

 

[Hector]

Ugh, that really sucks Hector! Cars are a real pain in the ass sometimes! They always seem to be breaking down or having issues! But we can't live without em! (Especially those of us in areas with NO public transportation!) The answer to your question, "When does it end?" ... Seems like never!

I am VERY fortunate that my dad is able to fix most of my car issues... he isn't a mechanic, but an engineer with an ability to figure most things out.

Good luck with the car... if only Santa would bring you a new one!!

HA! now wouldn't that be nice . This car has been very reliable and problem free until now. Like all the problems popped up at once. Forgot to add the one of the side head lights went out too!! and that's after 21 years...but yeah when it rains, it pours. At least problems were found before anything drastic happened like blowing the engine out.

 

[cinnamon roll]

Um I say you auction Hector off to pay the bill.


Sorry cars suck they are so damn expensive and everything seems to go bad all at once.

 

[Hector]

Um I say you auction Hector off to pay the bill.


Sorry cars suck they are so damn expensive and everything seems to go bad all at once.

Hector bad dog! I'm really starting to have second and third thoughts about him. Cars, houses, pets - all money pits lol

 

[cinnamon roll]

Don't forget the biggest blood suckers of them all...............KIDS!!!

Hector bad dog! I'm really starting to have second and third thoughts about him. Cars, houses, pets - all money pits lol

 

[Hector]

Don't forget the biggest blood suckers of them all...............KIDS!!!

Oh yeah, the parasites didn't come to mind because I don't have any lol

 

[cinnamon roll]

Trade ya 3 kids for Hector.

 

[Hector]

Trade ya 3 kids for Hector.

lmao...I would never put anyone at risk! He's been showing some instability and I'm being serious. Like I said I'm having second, third, fourth thoughts about this dog. We're going to change some things around and see what happens. Why can't I just have a normal dog for once????

 

[cinnamon roll]

UH OH....what is he doing?

 

[Hector]

UH OH....what is he doing?

Being a fucking weirdo and growling at my bf that's been here before we got him. I don't really know what is wrong with him other than he's insecure and fearful. We have identified three scenarios where he will guard (which is coupled with growling at the male dog) and one that includes where he will act the same way with my bf which is totally unacceptable. It's not like we can beat him up for that because it's something in his head that makes him that way. There is no point in correcting fear as it doesn't change or make his fear go away. It might suppress it, but the fear is still there and that'll probably make him more dangerous.

Anyway, yesterday I leashed the female and muzzled her for her nail trimming. He started to go bezerk and growled and pushed the other male away. I was like okay I just need to make them go lay down and make Buddy go away out of his space. Then Hector goes in his crate and lays down and watches me and whines while I'm working the old female in front of the crate. Later, I decided to bring my bunny out. Every time I do, Hector will go on full guard against the male. No idea why because the bunny doesn't live in the house. Anyway, I had the bunny like always and Hector faces off with the male with growls and pacing. I tried to snap him out of it and told them to lay down, but he wouldn't stop so I put the bunny away. Finally, I went upstairs with the dogs to go to bed. My bf came up afterwards and for some effing reason, he will growl at my bf every time he comes in if we are upstairs before him. This time he would not stop and my bf had told him to stop, but he wouldn't so he kicked him out of the room. I don't know if Hector feels cornered or what, but there's plenty of room to move or run, but he decides to growl and challenge and he is fearful. I have yet to see him be confident and brave when he gets into that state of mind. We never abused him or beat him. I talked to the breeder and told her that I am very disappointed with him and that I will have to put him down if need be.

We are going to leave him in his crate downstairs during bedtime. I will slip him some calming pills and put a damn shock collar on him if need be. I'm really running out of ideas and patience. He is the type of dog that will keep crying/barking/whining until he gets what he wants. I really don't want to wait for the bite to happen. I don't really know what a trainer or behaviorist will do for us. Plus a fila should never ever exhibit any type of aggression towards it's people and for him to do that is a major red flag. It is also the reason why I chose a fila is because of their loyalty towards family, but I wished I had joined this forum before I had gotten my dog.

 

[cinnamon roll]

okay How old is he again?

And how long ago did he start this crazy behavior?

 

[Hector]

um 17 months and uh probably crazy mental crap started happening at 14-15 months.

 

[DennasMom]

Back to the car topic... our Subaru went through a phase like that, I think about the same mileage? Since it was out of warrenty and our local dealer had pissed me off with their total lack of customer service ability, we went with a small private shop. EVERY time we took it in for something, it came back with a different problem. That went on and off for a few weeks. When it finally got that phase out of it's system, we stopped going back to that private garage and found a new dealer - a little further to drive, but they seem to know what they're doing, and we haven't had any more problems.

Can you believe a DEALER told us: "we found a small head gasket leak, but no need to do anything yet, we'll just monitor it a let you know if we think any action needs to be done next time we see you." I drive about as much as you do, it sounds like... the car goes in for an annual oil change/checkup (~3500 miles/year is all it gets driven). The next time it was in, there was no leak noticed at all.

As for Hector... I don't know Filas, but I'd be putting your BF in charge of as much care & feeding as you can, and have him on NILF for a few days and see if that helps his attitude a little. Let him know that if he works for something, he'll get it (i.e. be generous with rewards), but he doesn't get anything for 'free'. Some extra obedience exercises, and/or teaching some new 'tricks' might help get him back in gear, too...

Seems like he's trying to figure out how to protect all his peeps (bunny included), but isn't sure what all they need protecting from... ?

 

[Hector]

Back to the car topic... our Subaru went through a phase like that, I think about the same mileage? Since it was out of warrenty and our local dealer had pissed me off with their total lack of customer service ability, we went with a small private shop. EVERY time we took it in for something, it came back with a different problem. That went on and off for a few weeks. When it finally got that phase out of it's system, we stopped going back to that private garage and found a new dealer - a little further to drive, but they seem to know what they're doing, and we haven't had any more problems.

Can you believe a DEALER told us: "we found a small head gasket leak, but no need to do anything yet, we'll just monitor it a let you know if we think any action needs to be done next time we see you." I drive about as much as you do, it sounds like... the car goes in for an annual oil change/checkup (~3500 miles/year is all it gets driven). The next time it was in, there was no leak noticed at all.

As for Hector... I don't know Filas, but I'd be putting your BF in charge of as much care & feeding as you can, and have him on NILF for a few days and see if that helps his attitude a little. Let him know that if he works for something, he'll get it (i.e. be generous with rewards), but he doesn't get anything for 'free'. Some extra obedience exercises, and/or teaching some new 'tricks' might help get him back in gear, too...

Seems like he's trying to figure out how to protect all his peeps (bunny included), but isn't sure what all they need protecting from... ?

Yeah, it's hard to know who to trust. I mean it's just so easy to scam the hell out of people with things like this. I like as much detail as possible. My old shop told me that a leak from the oil pump can be as simple as a bad gasket and the leak probably got on the belt and degraded the rubber so that should be changed out. The new shop didn't mention anything just oh you have a leak at the oil pump and it needs to be changed out and didn't mention that the oil will degrade the rubber on the belt. I just got my car back and they tried to charge me $1000 and I'm like didn't you say it was 730ish? He looked up his notes and said oh yes I forgot to add the transmission labor so he charged me to what was agreed upon which was $800 including tax . I wonder if this was a honest mistake?????

My bf is more strict with Hector. He doesn't even pay attention to him when he's whining for it. The weird part is that everything is fine if my bf goes upstairs with the dogs at the same time. He spends more time with my bf than he does with me. There is also no tension if the bunny is just outside in their hutches. We've been telling him to go away or go to his crate when he begs or sits close to us. I have not been paying too much attention to him. It just sucks.

 

[farnorthweaver]

I have found that a bored dog is an insecure dog, and will frequently go for the negative strokes if they aren't getting the positive strokes through exercise and outdoor activities. Big dogs need a LOT of attention with proactive consistent training sessions. Whether you think they need them or not, they always do.
You will have an emotionally and physically healthy dog that will aim to please in all the right ways.
all the best to you...

 

[Hector]

I have found that a bored dog is an insecure dog, and will frequently go for the negative strokes if they aren't getting the positive strokes through exercise and outdoor activities. Big dogs need a LOT of attention with proactive consistent training sessions. Whether you think they need them or not, they always do.
You will have an emotionally and physically healthy dog that will aim to please in all the right ways.
all the best to you...

I admit he's not getting enough exercise. We go on walks and he starts to drag after 1 hr. I try to play with him and all he wants to do is chase and keep away. He likes to play with the other dogs, but he's such a weirdo that the male is confused about him and the female just wants to sleep. The males have been playing more lately because I have been working a lot. I have to admit we have not been doing training sessions. I'm kind of at a point where I don't really know what to teach him. I guess I haven't tried hard enough as I am disappointed by his behavior. Everything is normal routine around the house and there is no reason for him to act scared and feel the need to defend. We don't steal his bed, we don't sleep on his bed, we don't kick him out of his bed. He'll growl at my bf one minute and then turn around and act like he's best friends. Another thing is that sometimes he'll growl at bf and then he'll avoid and lay down shivering, scared shitless for no reason. A lot of times my bf will ignore him, but it's not working.

 

[NeSaxena]

Dang! I wish there was anything else I could add to the car or Hector!

But I'll trade him for a husband, if you'd like