Lost in OCD Bride Land but haven't forgotten any of you!

[Nik]

I know I have been rather absent lately but I am not lying dead in a ditch somewhere. I am lost in OCD Bride Land. It is a scary place. A really scary place. A place filled with spreadsheets and charts and self-invented "cuteness" scoring charts and algorithms invented to pick the best thing... So basically I am insane. But, the insanity is temporary as the wedding is set for Feb 29... destination, small and in Spokane WA! Oh and this weekend i got my dress! Also things I have learned in the process... People in Washington are nicer. Like super nice. Like really super nice. Like.. Wow that exists can I keep you nice? Also people in Canada are even more nice! How is that possible? Can I move there? I like nice people. Oh and being engaged makes me a ridiculous emotional sap that cries over nothing. It's a little obnoxious and I hope it is a temporary side effect of this whole impending marriage thing.

 

[angelbears]

How exciting. Congratulations.

 

[Boxergirl]

Hahaha, you sound like my daughter. We, however, have until next June to get everything done. You don't have long at all! You sound deliriously happy. That's wonderful. You've been missed. I'd love to see your dress *hint* *hint*.

 

[Smokeycat]

Congratulations.
There is a reason that we are stereotyped as being friendly. For many of us it is imprinted at birth. It's not uncommon for a default response to running into something being an immediate apology, even if you ran into a wall.

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[EverythingEnglishMastiff]

Congrats! :cheers:
I'm glad my wife didn't make me go through that for our wedding. I was honestly i dunno, maybe an asshole for lack of a better way to describe it. She would be like this thing or that. I'd be like, "It's your wedding,women are the ones with the big ceremonial dreams. I just want to be clear I'm carrying my pistol with me. When I tell my friends I'm getting married, they tell me I'm sorry." When I got fitted for my tux the seamstress measured around my .45 in my DeSantis shoulder rig :thumbsup:

Needless to say I consumed exactly 0 alcohol during the reception. Along with at least 5 other family members(my side not hers) that I'm positive were also carrying(concealed of course).

 

[Max's mom]

Congrats NIK~ Remember that the bride is the only one who stresses about if the bows on the chairs are straight or tied right or if those little mints are on the tables. Nobody blows the bubbles and sparklers will put out someone's eye! The beauty is the simplicity of the moment, the love that resonates and let the remarkable features about the Inn you chose shine through, just accentute it! Everything should compliment you but not overshine you. Wedding expense is so extreme and in the long run, every bride I've ever talked to says a bunch of what she spent and stressed about just added clutter. Now, have you thought out the whole Feb 29 thing? You know you are only going to get anniversary gifts once every 4 years, right? Congrats again.

 

[Harrygto]

congrats

 

[Nik]

Hahaha, you sound like my daughter. We, however, have until next June to get everything done. You don't have long at all! You sound deliriously happy. That's wonderful. You've been missed. I'd love to see your dress *hint* *hint*.

Oh I do have one from when I was trying it on. I will dig it up and post it later today.

 

[Nik]

Congratulations. There is a reason that we are stereotyped as being friendly. For many of us it is imprinted at birth. It's not uncommon for a default response to running into something being an immediate apology, even if you ran into a wall.Sent from my SM-G920W8 using Tapatalk

I have apologized to a wall after running into it before.. It was pretty embarrassing! lol Maybe I am secretly Canadian. Seriously though I'm not used to people being quite so nice and it is a great change.

 

[TricAP]

Yes people in WA are much nicer than SoCal!!! When we moved up here a couple years ago I kept commenting on that - and I still do!! Enjoy the engagement process - its part of the fun. Don't stress the details - you really won't remember them when you look back. With so many places to choose - why Spokane? They did tell you it can be pretty cold and even snow at that point in the year didn't they?

 

[Nik]

TricAP - I am hoping for snow! We found a teeny tiny vintage mansion - Roberts mansion and inn which was very reasonably priced compared to most venues and was super flexible willing to let us bring our own food and alcohol Which will save us a bundle. They were recommended to me by a different venue o had fallen in love with but was shut down during winter and also too expensive for our budget.

Our second choice is closer to Seattle but (in port Townsend) but is a bit more expensive and is also less flexible so we would spend more on food and drink.

Trying not to stress on the details too much mostly I'm worried about my outfit and the photographer and a little more relaxed about the rest. It is only a 30 person wedding so not a big one. But I'm also super organized and ocd about basically everything in life so I have a billion interviews and tastings and tours planned this coming weekend to review vendors.

I'm even going to tour and review the local hotels so I can give knowledgable recommendations to our guests

Trying not to stress


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[Nik]

Congrats NIK~ Remember that the bride is the only one who stresses about if the bows on the chairs are straight or tied right or if those little mints are on the tables. Nobody blows the bubbles and sparklers will put out someone's eye! The beauty is the simplicity of the moment, the love that resonates and let the remarkable features about the Inn you chose shine through, just accentute it! Everything should compliment you but not overshine you. Wedding expense is so extreme and in the long run, every bride I've ever talked to says a bunch of what she spent and stressed about just added clutter. Now, have you thought out the whole Feb 29 thing? You know you are only going to get anniversary gifts once every 4 years, right? Congrats again.

Oh I agree about that. I am looking forward to when I can concentrate on the decorating because we are doing a 1920s theme (speakeasy) and i have a ton of cute ideas and plan to do it myself to save money and because I think that should be fairly easy for such a small wedding. I think the biggest stresser for me is cost. We are staying on budget but even our tiny budget is super painful for us. I just keep reminding myself it's for us and not to spend money on the things I don't care about because it is just for us not for anyone else.

 

[Nik]

Oh! And I almost forgot to mention the leap year thing. We are planning a tiny celebration every year the day before (like a nice dinner) but a big one every four years (like a vacation somewhere cool or something). I think it will make it super special and fun and give us something really cool to look forward to every few years.

 

[TricAP]

Looks like a wonderful place to get married Nik!

 

[Victoria93]

Congrats! I just got married in July, try not to overthink it those small things that go south are the things that will make you laugh when its over. Enjoy every minute of it and taste test lots of cake!

 

[EverythingEnglishMastiff]

I love your speakeasy idea. That's going to be so amazing.

We had our wedding in a public park. To save money I was trying to get people to bring their own chairs for the ceremony and my wife was just not having it lol. I thought it would be awesome to have everyone still seated in rows but in their lawn and camping chairs they brought from home! Needless to say, we wound up renting chairs.

 

[Nik]

I love your speakeasy idea. That's going to be so amazing. We had our wedding in a public park. To save money I was trying to get people to bring their own chairs for the ceremony and my wife was just not having it lol. I thought it would be awesome to have everyone still seated in rows but in their lawn and camping chairs they brought from home! Needless to say, we wound up renting chairs.

I thought of doing it in public park... pretty nature and such. But, then Sean reminded me that it will be very cold in February and maybe having the whole ceremony and reception outside in February in the snow might not be the most brilliant idea I have ever had even if it would save us money. I was like "We'll order pizzas and just do it outside and the snow will be so pretty we won't need flowers." And he was like "Uh huh and you think that doing it in 20 degree weather for hours is going to be comfortable? How is the pizza going to even be warm?" lol Being a Californian I guess things like "cold" don't really cross my mind... just "pretty". haha

 

[QY10]

I know I have been rather absent lately but I am not lying dead in a ditch somewhere. I am lost in OCD Bride Land. It is a scary place. A really scary place. A place filled with spreadsheets and charts and self-invented "cuteness" scoring charts and algorithms invented to pick the best thing... So basically I am insane. But, the insanity is temporary as the wedding is set for Feb 29... destination, small and in Spokane WA! Oh and this weekend i got my dress! Also things I have learned in the process... People in Washington are nicer. Like super nice. Like really super nice. Like.. Wow that exists can I keep you nice? Also people in Canada are even more nice! How is that possible? Can I move there? I like nice people. Oh and being engaged makes me a ridiculous emotional sap that cries over nothing. It's a little obnoxious and I hope it is a temporary side effect of this whole impending marriage thing.

Congrats!Did you spend any time in Canada? If so, where? I live minutes from 2 borders.

 

[Nik]

Congrats!Did you spend any time in Canada? If so, where? I live minutes from 2 borders.

No not yet but I bought a white faux fur jacket from a nice lady in Canada over ebay and she made me a little bridal keychain just because I had mentioned my wedding and sent me a hand written card

We are talking about Canada for a short honey moon though


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[Nik]

Here is a pic of the dress I picked


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