The nerve of some people!!!!

[lilliesmomma]

OMG!!! I am so flippin mad!! I just had to vent. Again with my nephews friends, this couple comes over from time to time and Lillie always barks, which is ok they came into HER house. She doesn't really like the girl for some reason she barks at the guy and the girl but I can tell her bark is different towards the girl. Well, as they were leaving I was in the kitchen and they were going to the door thru the living room where Lillie was, well Lillie started barking again. I hear the girl as she was looking at Lillie, calling her a "bad dog". Oh I flipped out, I went in the living room and said how dare her discipline MY dog in MY house. She said " well if that dog attacks me....." I said to her " I suggest you not come back to MY DAMN house and out the door she went.

Sorry as I said I had to vent.

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[lilliesmomma]

My nephew is now mad at me and thinks I was in the wrong. I can't believe it!!

 

[Marrowshard]

Ugh ... as you say, SOME people. The only time I discipline other people's dogs is if they tell me I can, as in "oh, if he starts begging just tell him NO". It's not my place to scold other people's dogs, but that being said I DO hate it when I'm invited somewhere and am harassed from the get-go by a dog that won't shut up or is jumping all over me. Not saying that happened here (it sure doesn't sound like it, if Lillie was in a different room to start with), just sayin' some people are rude house-guests and some people have rude house-dogs and it sucks to run into either
Sorry your nephew's mad at you, but maybe he'll calm down and realize that for Lillie, your house is her pack's home and she assesses threats independently from human social etiquette.

~Marrow

 

[Dogue]

Kick your nephew out! I kicked my niece out two months ago . . . you'll feel great! Any rate, I think you did the right thing. I love what said, "I suggest you don't come back to my damn house!" Kinda like "I'm older and have better insurance."

 

[BlackShadowCaneCorso]

We tell people our dogs live there they don't if they don't like the way things are the are free to not visit! I also tend to prefer when my dogs let me know when something is off with people, like you my dogs give the initial warning that someone is here but if they continue to remain distant to someone after I have said they were friends, and bark or remain watchful of that person I know something is off. I trust my dogs judgement more than most people and if they say something isn't right then it isn't I think your nephew needs to understand your position on how things work in your house with your pets, would he be happy if you came over and attempted to correct his dog in his home?

 

[Bentley]

It's simple to me, your house, your dog. your rules! If she has a problem with the dog, what is she doing there in the first place?

 

[lilliesmomma]

I told my nephew I would never come to his house and correct his dog for protecting him. He thinks I was rude and out of line , as he put it I had a stick up my ass. I told him when he and his mom move out Lillie will be my guard dog and protector and she will never be a bad dog for doing her job.

 

[AdrianVall]

Well, sounds like your response was SPOT ON with what it should have been.. so great job!

 

[Arkitek]

I would NEVER discipline someone elses dog, ESPECIALLY when the dog was just doing the right instinctive thing

 

[lilliesmomma]

I would NEVER discipline someone elses dog, ESPECIALLY when the dog was just doing the right instinctive thing

My feelings exactly!!!!!!

 

[Ripsmom]

i think you were kind...I would have told the nephew to not let any of his friends in the house in the future

 

[Tibleti]

I agree with ripsmom. It is your home and you have every right to feel safe and comfortable in your own home. Part of that is having people that your pet is comfortable with. Animals have way better intuition than humans, I have always thought.

 

[moose]

It's simple to me, your house, your dog. your rules! If she has a problem with the dog, what is she doing there in the first place?

This!!

 

[Cody]

I may play the devils advocate here, but what did you do when Lillie was barking at the woman?
Do you correct her?
I am just wondering as the behavior really should be stopped before Lillie matures and it does progress into something worse. You would be held liable and it could result in Lillies life.
That said when I am invited into someones home and their dog is being rude or dominant to me, I do correct it. Being honest here, I won't be pushed around by a dog. That just leads to a dangerous situation.

 

[lilliesmomma]

I may play the devils advocate here, but what did you do when Lillie was barking at the woman?
Do you correct her?
I am just wondering as the behavior really should be stopped before Lillie matures and it does progress into something worse. You would be held liable and it could result in Lillies life.
That said when I am invited into someones home and their dog is being rude or dominant to me, I do correct it. Being honest here, I won't be pushed around by a dog. That just leads to a dangerous situation.

Honestly, I was so mad all my attention went to the girl and by the time she was out the door Lillie had stopped barking. She is awesome with the family, our other dogs and cats. My mom comes over to visit or my son and they come in and she runs up to the no barking or anything. Its strangers that she is not tolerate of and I don't know how to help her thru it. If I had a guest in the house and Lillie wouldn't stop barking or showed and aggresion I would put her outside or in her crate, or on the other side of the gate I have dividing the rooms. I don't have visitors and my nephews friends go down to his room where Lillie can't see them.

 

[Cody]

Honestly, I was so mad all my attention went to the girl and by the time she was out the door Lillie had stopped barking. She is awesome with the family, our other dogs and cats. My mom comes over to visit or my son and they come in and she runs up to the no barking or anything. Its strangers that she is not tolerate of and I don't know how to help her thru it. If I had a guest in the house and Lillie wouldn't stop barking or showed and aggresion I would put her outside or in her crate, or on the other side of the gate I have dividing the rooms. I don't have visitors and my nephews friends go down to his room where Lillie can't see them.

Do you socialize her? I mean take her to as many places outside your home as you can? Get her secure in as many different scenarios as possible?
Trouble is she is still young, around a year if I am correct, she has yet to come into herself as a mature dog.
Most of the time barking at people is an insecure behavior.
It is most definitely your home and your rules, but I would try to curb the behavior asap, as the last thing you do need is a lawsuit.

 

[lilliesmomma]

Do you socialize her? I mean take her to as many places outside your home as you can? Get her secure in as many different scenarios as possible?
Trouble is she is still young, around a year if I am correct, she has yet to come into herself as a mature dog.
Most of the time barking at people is an insecure behavior.
It is most definitely your home and your rules, but I would try to curb the behavior asap, as the last thing you do need is a lawsuit.

She hates car rides, I have to force her in the car( which I really hate to do). Tonight I took her to a dog trainer that has been around for a while but took time off due to his health. I was trying to find him when I first got Lillie but couldn't. I had to put her front legs in the car then pick up her back legs and put them in the car. No small task considering she is 100+ lbs.
I told him about the incident I had (he's had Mastiffs and has Shepards now) and my concerns for her turning out to be a fear biter or aggressive. He said she needs more disipline and confidence that she is still young and we can help her with this. He took her and worked with her for a little, you could tell she was nervous but did fine with him. She wanted to make up with the other dogs there and got on the couch between my and another gentleman and was licking his arm and she let him pet her. She was a very well behaved dog tonight. I do need to socialize her more but with her fear of car rides I hate to push her but I guess I need to take her more often.

 

[PuppyPaws]

Turn the car ride into a positive experience. Play some games by the car. Do some training in and around the car, kinda like you would with crate training. If she is food motivated, toss a treat in the car and let her jump in or stick her head in if she is too nervous to jump in. Let her get the treat and then leave. build up till she's not nervous about getting in. Work slowly, letting her jump in and out on her own. as she progress work on shutting the door for a couple seconds. Get a helper so you can sit in there with her and while they shut the door. Build up to start the car and sittin in the driveway, then to taking short trips around the block. Mix it up. Sometime just ask her jump in with no ride and back out. Then short rides, etc. This should help make it less of a major ordeal. Good luck! Keep us posted.

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Sorry for the broken sentences and the typos. It is late here and I am being lazy with my typing. Let me know if any of that did not make sense

 

[PuppyPaws]

Sorry for the broken sentences and the typos. It is late here and I am being lazy with my typing. Let me know if any of that did not make sense

 

[lilliesmomma]

Sorry for the broken sentences and the typos. It is late here and I am being lazy with my typing. Let me know if any of that did not make sense

Thanks for the tips, makes perfect sense. My sister has a Yorkie that Lillie just loves I will recruit him also as my helper because he loves car rides. I will do all that you recommended and I'm sure we can make progress. I will keep you updated on the progress we make. My sister has a van maybe we can start with the van the work up to my Sorento.