Can I ask for some ongoing thoughts for my boy please

Discussion in 'Chit-Chat' started by Boxergirl, Sep 11, 2018.

  1. Jarena

    Jarena Well-Known Member

    My tears are already spilling for your family, I’ll be thinking of you.
     
  2. Boxergirl

    Boxergirl Well-Known Member

    Thanks for this. I was feeling a bit callous.
     
  3. glen

    glen Super Moderator Staff Member

    My thoughts are with you and your family, if everyone in this world had a part of your heart put in them we wouldnt have animals being neglected and abused, your amazing, youve gave him the best life, youve never gave up on him and your certainly not now, this is the most hardest part but the most loving act we do, to be with him at the end holding him.
    Your in my thoughts and prayers.
     
  4. April Nicole

    April Nicole Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry for your losses. Will be praying for you and your family today. I know Al will be terribly missed. I agree w everyone else's sentiments, you are amazing, and I have no doubt that you are making the right choice for him. Give him a big hug from all of us here on the forum. He is such an inspiration. And a big hug to you my friend.
     
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  5. TylerDurden

    TylerDurden Well-Known Member

    I wish you and your family all the best. Al‘s stories have taught all of us a lot about dogs, and especially about the love between dogs and their owners. You are probably one of the strongest persons I "know". When it comes to moments like that, we are all weak, but I think that‘s totally ok. I‘m sure you are doing the right thing. As everybody else, I will be thinking about you today.
     
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  6. marke

    marke Well-Known Member

    only one person in my life has equaled the grief i've felt with the passing of one of my dogs , never been a people person ......... hope Al enjoys his ice cream and car ride .........
     
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  7. Zeela

    Zeela Well-Known Member

    Thinking of you...
     
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  8. Nik

    Nik Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry to hear this. My heart is hurting for you right now and for Al. I know how hard the decision is and I know that even when you know it is the right decision you will never feel comfortable with it.

    As for the grief over Al overshadowing that for your other losses you should absolutely not judge yourself for this. If it is any consolation, science has proven that the love and attachment we have for our dogs is on par with what we have for a human child. The same parts of our brain activate and light up with our dogs as they would for our own baby. We bond with them and while we may call them fur babies in jest our hearts know it isn't really a jest and the science proves it. Give yourself space and permission to grieve. You need it. And enjoy spoiling Al one more time.

    I will be thinking of you and sending all the hugs and puppy kisses from here to you, Al and your family. <3 <3 <3
     
  9. Boxergirl

    Boxergirl Well-Known Member

    I want to sincerely thank everyone for the kind words and thoughts. We upped his meds yesterday because why not? He did all the things, had all the treats, was able to walk to the froyo stand down the block, and the meds gave him an almost normal day. He had the best day ever and he left peacefully and quickly with the people he loved most around him. I'm having a much harder time with this than I thought I would. In a different way than any other dog I've had to make this decision for. I just feel like he had more good days in him - but at what cost? Four horrible days to two good ones? That's not fair and the increasing doses of Pred would have taken a toll on him. I have to remember that one day too soon is always better. It is. And he had the BEST day. But I miss him so and his brother is grieving heavily.

    I'd like to share pictures again. From day one to yesterday. Here's my special, sweetest boy. Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledog.
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  10. Boxergirl

    Boxergirl Well-Known Member

    The best last day. You can see his front legs weren't working will in that last picture, but it didn't stop him from trying to jump into his girl's jeep - his favorite place.
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  11. Jarena

    Jarena Well-Known Member


    You are a blessing to this forum and always have the best advice. So remember, like you said, one day too soon is better than one day too late. You have to follow your own words of wisdom. I really believe you made the best choice and if he were still here tomorrow you would be beating yourself up more than you are now. Just know you made the right decision at the right time, and let yourself grieve the loss of your boy, no need to grieve because of your choice. It sounds like he had one last normal day, that’s really amazing. I feel like that, the fact that he had a great day, says so much. It says your timing was perfect. That’s how I would want to remember my pup, back to normal one last time.

    Thank you for sharing the pictures. I love seeing that face. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. He certainty had a purpose on this earth. He taught me a lot, without ever meeting him. He also taught all of us about you, the depth of your love for others seems endless. Thank you for sharing him with us.
     
  12. Jakesmum

    Jakesmum Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry for your loss. Making the decision is the hardest and I know all the second guessing you are still tormenting yourself with, but you made the absolute best decision for your boy and he is no longer sick or in pain. Remember all the happy times you had with him.
     
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  13. Nik

    Nik Well-Known Member

    I am grieving with you. Even though I never met him I feel like I know Al through your stories and photos. And of course I can't help but see Kahlua in him as well.
    It truly does look like he had an amazing day doing all the things he loved. <3 <3 <3
     
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  14. Boxergirl

    Boxergirl Well-Known Member

    Thank you all. So much.
     
  15. April Nicole

    April Nicole Well-Known Member

    Thanks for sharing those pics. Love the baby pic ! Thinking about you, hope each day gets a little easier.
    R.I.P. Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledog.
     
  16. Zeela

    Zeela Well-Known Member

    It hurts soooo much, take it day by day. I wish you comfort...
     
  17. April Nicole

    April Nicole Well-Known Member

    Thinking about you, hope you are doing well.
     
  18. Sheila Braund

    Sheila Braund Well-Known Member

    Oh I love it! Job well done Boxergirl!
     
  19. Sheila Braund

    Sheila Braund Well-Known Member

    Oh Boxergirl, I'm so sorry
    My dear Boxergirl, my heart is breaking for you and your family.....
    Thank you for sharing this very personal part of your life with us. Thank you for the pictures.... He truly is a special one.....you can see it in his very first picture.
    I honestly believe that Al is still very close to you.... I also believe he is grateful for your heart renching decision. Please do know I'm thinking of you, Al and your family. Now your little man is no longer .... Now his your little Angel.
    (((Hugs)))
     
  20. Boxergirl

    Boxergirl Well-Known Member

    I just wanted to say thanks to you all again. We're adjusting to having him gone. He was so high maintenance and I miss him even more because of that. It's the difficult ones that teach you the most and I'll be forever grateful for all I learned from him. His issues put my youngest daughter where she is today - in behavior and training - and she's going to be so good at her job and help so many dogs. It's clear to me that Al came into our lives for a reason. Thank you all letting me share my little non-mastiff boy with you.
     
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