Nik
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As some of you may remember my family has been causing me some grief about my wedding. The latest is that my step-dad who had originally said he wasn't going to attend (which I was okay with) is now going. I suspect my mom is forcing him. When I was on the phone with my mom I heard him shouting in the background about my wedding. Angry, complaining about having to dress up, having to travel, cussing etc. I couldn't make out everything and my mom quickly hung up with me but I was pretty upset about the whole thing and still am.
Sean (my fianc*) wants to uninvite my stepdad because he doesn't seem to want to go and because it's creating a lot of negativity and stress and is making me really sad during what should be a happy time. I agree with all of these thoughts but I also feel like actually uninviting anyone would be extremely hurtful and I don't want to hurt anyone.
I should also mention my stepdad is a long time alcoholic and his behavior can be pretty erratic and unpredictable which I'm sure is contributing to all of this. He also has a long time terror of flying. He never flies anywhere so I suspect that is also behind his negativity. I had told him originally when he said he wasn't going that it was okay and that while we would like him there we understood if he couldn't be and it wasn't any issue.
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Sean (my fianc*) wants to uninvite my stepdad because he doesn't seem to want to go and because it's creating a lot of negativity and stress and is making me really sad during what should be a happy time. I agree with all of these thoughts but I also feel like actually uninviting anyone would be extremely hurtful and I don't want to hurt anyone.
I should also mention my stepdad is a long time alcoholic and his behavior can be pretty erratic and unpredictable which I'm sure is contributing to all of this. He also has a long time terror of flying. He never flies anywhere so I suspect that is also behind his negativity. I had told him originally when he said he wasn't going that it was okay and that while we would like him there we understood if he couldn't be and it wasn't any issue.
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