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Goodbye my kindred spirit

Boxergirl

Well-Known Member
I'm so sorry. I hate that you are questioning yourself. I live with a fearful dog and I evaluate his quality of life daily. I also evaluate the quality of life my other dogs and my family have because of him. I just told my DH yesterday that I wish more than anything that I could fix Al. I love him so much, but nothing is enough. I hope that someday I am strong enough to release him from his fears if they begin to overtake him or put the rest of my family (skin and fur) in danger. Anyone that dares to say anything negative about your choice has clearly never been in your shoes. My heart aches for you all, but you DID NOT FAIL. Many hugs to you all.
 

raji

Well-Known Member
Your post just broke my heart. Please, don't think you failed your girl, you did your absolute best for her and made an impossibly hard and brave decision. I think it makes sense that something was going on with her inside to make such a drastic change in her behavior. I am truly sorry for your loss, but do not second guess yourself-you did what was best for everyone and Ziva in particular. I can only imagine how your heart and soul are hurting. Please know, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Robin
 

fila4me

Well-Known Member
I am so sorry you guys had to make this tough decision.

it is never an easy one and the 2nd guessing, questioning yours actions, hers, and Jezzy's. is totally normal. you did what was right for your home and family dynamics.

I pray it gets easier for you both and the memories help heal your broken heart.

much love, Tammy
 

NeSaxena

Well-Known Member
AB, sweetie, we're all here for you. It's amazing what kind souls you and Debra have! Ziva had someone who loved her, with her all the way to the end, so I'm sure her journey across the bridge was a happy one. I know you're probably trying to do a breakdown of everything that happened in the last few weeks to see where you went wrong, but DON'T. We can dissect our lives all we want, but the important thing is, you did right by that beautiful dog. Please do not give up rescuing. You turned Ziva around, and you'll always be a boon to any and all other rescues you take in.

Much love and loads of healing heading your way. Like someone's mentioned already, think of all the good times and the good stuff. All of you deserve it.
 

Rugers-Kris

Well-Known Member
I am so sorry to hear this. I can't begin to imagine how hard it was to make that decision. I wish I had some pretty words to make you feel better but I don't. There is no doubt that you loved Ziva and that you gave her a great life and I know without a doubt that you did the right thing for her.

You didn't do anything wrong. You loved her when noone else would.........and you loved her enough to do the right thing.

I am here if you need something.
 

DMikeM

Well-Known Member
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think there was anything else that could have been done.
 

cayeesmom

Well-Known Member
So sorry to hear about Ziva,
Have to borrow Rugers-Kris words as I think they are very true. "You didn't do nothing wrong, you loved her when no one else would, and you loved her enough to do the right thing" It takes a very loving and unselfish person to do what you did.
 

DDSK

Well-Known Member
Wow my heart goes out to your family that is a decision I don't envu you for and i hope to never have to make a decision like that.
I think you know best and you made the right decision.
I wish I could give you guys a hug.
 

CeeCee

Well-Known Member
Oh AB, I am so very sorry for you loss. I'm sitting her balling for you so I'll keep this short.

Don't you dare let anyone pass judgement on your decision! You made the hardest of all decisions and you made it from a place of selfless love and the deepest respect for Ziva! Hugs and love, AB.

Dear Ziva, you are free of the ghosts. The world is yours. Run free little one.
 

mountainfila

Well-Known Member
Oh ab im so sorry you had to make that decision, just remember you did everything under the sun for that girl and she had a great life while with you, do not think other wise, you were the best thing that happened to her and dont ever forget that, rehoming filas is a tricky deal and she hit the motherlode when you took her in, she is smiling down upon you and Deb for the love you showed her for the short time you had her. Thank you for taking her into your home when no one else would and showing her that not all humans are bad. Big hugs to you and your family.
 

angelbears

Well-Known Member
Oh Carrie, I'm so sorry you had to see this. I know how hard things are for you right now. I can't tell you how much it means to me that you responded knowing how painful it must be for you.

Thank you my friend. Big hugs to you and your's
 

Kujo

Well-Known Member
My heart and thoughts go out to you and your family, I'm so sorry for the heart break you are all feeling right now. I forget who said it, but I whole hearedly agree with this statement: "The hardest decisions are usually the right decisions." Please don't torture yourself with the "what ifs", you made the best decision you could for your family, that's all anyone can do.

Kujo and I are sending you lots of cyber *hugs*
 

lynnturner65

Well-Known Member
I am very sorry for your loss, I know the pain as well of losing a member of your fur family, I believe with all my heart that one day we will be reunited with all of the pets we have lost and that will be a truly great day!
 

fdchampion

Well-Known Member
I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't know much about you and Mrs. Debra, but from what i've read you ladies have done a wonderful job and given Ziva a wonderful home for the past 2 1/2 years. You didn't fail Ziva, you gave her the best 2 1/2 years of her life. You did the right thing and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!! (Big Hugs from Me, Titan & Corelina)
 

amandakay2

Well-Known Member
I'm very sorry that you had to make this choice but you did what you had to do to make all your babies safe if you ever need to talk just message me

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angelbears

Well-Known Member
Reading everyone's messages has been very cathartic. I come back and reread them every hour or so. Thank you for helping me to start healing. A funny thing I realized was how I assumed that everyone just knew what a typical day is like for us and I for you. Our life has truly been centered around the dogs.

I don't think we could have rehomed her. It is true that we were able to bring her into our family when she was 3 but she wasn't bonded. She was found roaming the streets all alone. In the 2 1/2 years that we have had her either Debra or I have been home with her. Cane has separation anxiety so we had already changed our lifestyle by the time Ziva came to us. I don't work, the kids are grown, add to that we are anti-social. My dogs mean more to me than having friends. So, she had truly never been without one of us every minute of her life here. For that same reason I just don't think she could have been happy with a crate and rotate. Hell, Debra even made them their own plate every night at dinner and all three would gather around and eat with us. One bite for Debra, one bite for each dog. It drove me crazy but that is what made her happy and the dogs sure didn't complain.

I'm ready to move on. I know better than to say never but I truly hope to never own more than 2 dogs at a time and they will be the opposite sex. I don't ever want to deal with the same sex again. I just read that out loud I hope ya'll find the humor in that that I did. The only caveat is if Kismet ever needs a home. I've not touched base with Nelly in a few days, I just haven't been able to tell her about Ziva yet. Everything was going well the last time we spoke.

Thank you all for your support.

Robin and Debra


 

Smokin45

Well-Known Member
Wow Robin Im so sorry to hear about this. I had no clue that you were going through this, Im sure the last thing you wanted to be doing was answering some jack off noobs diet questions. You did the only thing someone could do in youe situation, and screw anyone that tells you different. God speed Ziva
 

Campbell Corso

Well-Known Member
So sorry for your loss. I do feel your pain.


why wasn’t sympathy vs empathy ever explained to me as “that sucks vs i feel u”
because that’s literally the best way to explain it
 

jersey girl

Well-Known Member
I am so, so sorry for all of you. Don't ever doubt your decision...you did the right thing. You gave Ziva so much love and such a great home. She will love you forever. Sending healing thoughts your way.