I wanted to introduce myself and ask for some opinions. Dave here from Columbus Ohio. I have a unique situation and we are doing intense research in order to provide the best possible outcome. I am not looking for a guarantee. I am looking for thoughtful responses.
We are a family of five. Three boys, 8,10,12. We have the typical chaotic household , busy with school, boy scouts, home maintenance and family BS. We live in a typical middle class neighborhood. We have a large fenced backyard. and we are not new to dogs or training etc. We have trained plenty of dogs with excellent success. We have owned black labs, red healers, a lab/chow mix all with excellent manners and very socialized.
However this is where it gets slightly unique.
We are blessed with a gift. My middle son, 10, has sever autism. He is a wonderful and happy boy. He loves dogs, is patient, kind and gentle. However he loves to be very very close to them. He likes to touch and stroke and essentially "merge with the dog". He wants to sit in the same chair or "on them". he is very aware of putting too much physical pressure. He listens if we tell him not to. He doesn't pitch a fit and he knows to be careful. He has shown this with an elderly dog with bad hips--he is very gentle. But the need to be very very near them has not been a fad. The need is not constant at all times. He will come and go, make contact and then be off about his business. He is not hyper. He does not pull or pinch or scratch or tease. But a dog who needs a lot of space will not work for this family. Some breeds are inherently this way. If you get in their face they become uncomfortable and leave or snip. Obviously each dog is an individual. I completely understand that.
I want to be very clear. The dog is not for service in the traditional sense. It does not need to help him with tasks. It does not need to direct him. The dog needs to be a solid presence. It cannot be flighty. Example--goldens are very loving but they tend to be focused on either a job or are easily distracted and they have the constant need to please. Border Collies need a job at all times given to them. In this case they would want to either herd him or he would have to interact with them around the job. This is not possible. I need the focus of the dog to be on him and the family, there for him, but not really directing him. It might warn him or us if there is a problem. But not necessarily try to solve the problem.
The dog also needs to be able to absorb the chaos of living in a house with a child who has special needs and who will remain calm. I don't need the dog reacting to and thus creating more chaos and excitement. A chiwawa, or some of the terriers comes to mind as the exact opposite of what we need. Not that they are not great dogs. Just not for us.
I am reaching out to those of you who can understand our needs. Is this the type of behavior on a gut level instinct that The English Mastiff exemplifies. I am looking at several breeds, but this is admittedly with the research I have done near the top of the list. Obviously I will research the breeder, explain our needs and visit with the pups parents. I will do everything necessary to make sure I am making as educated a decision as possible.
Thank You
Dave
We are a family of five. Three boys, 8,10,12. We have the typical chaotic household , busy with school, boy scouts, home maintenance and family BS. We live in a typical middle class neighborhood. We have a large fenced backyard. and we are not new to dogs or training etc. We have trained plenty of dogs with excellent success. We have owned black labs, red healers, a lab/chow mix all with excellent manners and very socialized.
However this is where it gets slightly unique.
We are blessed with a gift. My middle son, 10, has sever autism. He is a wonderful and happy boy. He loves dogs, is patient, kind and gentle. However he loves to be very very close to them. He likes to touch and stroke and essentially "merge with the dog". He wants to sit in the same chair or "on them". he is very aware of putting too much physical pressure. He listens if we tell him not to. He doesn't pitch a fit and he knows to be careful. He has shown this with an elderly dog with bad hips--he is very gentle. But the need to be very very near them has not been a fad. The need is not constant at all times. He will come and go, make contact and then be off about his business. He is not hyper. He does not pull or pinch or scratch or tease. But a dog who needs a lot of space will not work for this family. Some breeds are inherently this way. If you get in their face they become uncomfortable and leave or snip. Obviously each dog is an individual. I completely understand that.
I want to be very clear. The dog is not for service in the traditional sense. It does not need to help him with tasks. It does not need to direct him. The dog needs to be a solid presence. It cannot be flighty. Example--goldens are very loving but they tend to be focused on either a job or are easily distracted and they have the constant need to please. Border Collies need a job at all times given to them. In this case they would want to either herd him or he would have to interact with them around the job. This is not possible. I need the focus of the dog to be on him and the family, there for him, but not really directing him. It might warn him or us if there is a problem. But not necessarily try to solve the problem.
The dog also needs to be able to absorb the chaos of living in a house with a child who has special needs and who will remain calm. I don't need the dog reacting to and thus creating more chaos and excitement. A chiwawa, or some of the terriers comes to mind as the exact opposite of what we need. Not that they are not great dogs. Just not for us.
I am reaching out to those of you who can understand our needs. Is this the type of behavior on a gut level instinct that The English Mastiff exemplifies. I am looking at several breeds, but this is admittedly with the research I have done near the top of the list. Obviously I will research the breeder, explain our needs and visit with the pups parents. I will do everything necessary to make sure I am making as educated a decision as possible.
Thank You
Dave