Why is she so crazy?

[blackshadow]

So my neighbor Is a problem. She has a pit-bull and I have a CGC and formally trained CC by a company that's been In business for 27 years and then he is also agility course trained and the owner has a CC named Alpha. My Leo Is very well socialized off leash dog park all the time and pet stores. So here is what's happening... My 6x8 stockade gets beat up by here pit so she repair's it using 8 inch drywall screw's... I explained to her you do not use 8 inch screw's to repair a slat of wood that is 1/4 inch!!! then a week later she did it again I believe she is tying to hurt my CC so I typed her a letter had it notarized and certified mail to her and I figured it would be over. Not the case, I am at my wit's end with her. I know I can control my CC very easily he is a really good boy so I am thinking of taking my fence down. Any suggestion's please...

 

[Bailey's Mom]

Depending upon where you live, you would enlist the help of the City By-law Enforcement Officer, Animal Control, the Police (if you are really of the firm belief that her repair attempts are done with malice aforethought in an attempt to harm your dog.) Or you could hire a lawyer to advise by letter that the damage to the fence must be repaired by a professional and that the costs will flow to her.
So many options, but you took the essential first steps, you notified her personally of your concerns, and gave her a chance to address those concerns, followed up when she failed to comply with an escalation and now you need the authorities to step in.
My personal experience tells me this person is ill equipped either mentally or emotionally to deal with you, her dog or life in general. Is she alone in the world, struggling, does she have a support system? Perhaps, just perhaps, getting to know your neighbour will detox the situation and grow some empathy. You have a good place to start...you both have dogs. I'd try an olive branch first, invite her for tea, be pleasant, let her know that you want to have a good relationship and are willing to work together. Let her meet and enjoy your dogs, that way she'll be involved in their issues including their safety.
Just a point I want to make, people need to reconnect with their neighbours, they need to know who lives next door and care about their lives. A sense of community and involvement helps everyone.

 

[DennasMom]

Get some similar screws and screw them in from your side... just a few... so she can see exactly what it is she's doing - and maybe the pit would learn not to pound the fence that way, too...

Or... be a nicer person, and do as Ewlizbat suggests.
And, buy her a box of the correct screws to use, so she doesn't have any excuses.

I agree on the last statement, too... we live in a society where people ignore "others", and often just don't even see them... if we remembered that we're all human and all have our own problems to deal with - be a little more empathetic to "others" and their situations, maybe we'd all get along?? Your neighbor seems to be someone who doesn't see "others".... hopefully if you reach out to her with kindness, she'll open her eyes and "see" you! (we can hope, right??)

 

[el gato diablo]

In the short term...use a pair of bolt cutters to clip off the long ends of the screws so on one gets hurt (dog or person/kid).

 

[Bailey's Mom]

.... Or... be a nicer person, and do as Ewlizbat suggests.
And, buy her a box of the correct screws to use, so she doesn't have any excuses.

I agree on the last statement, too... we live in a society where people ignore "others", and often just don't even see them... if we remembered that we're all human and all have our own problems to deal with - be a little more empathetic to "others" and their situations, maybe we'd all get along?? Your neighbor seems to be someone who doesn't see "others".... hopefully if you reach out to her with kindness, she'll open her eyes and "see" you! (we can hope, right??)

The box of appropriate screws was a brilliant idea, it's both obvious and neutral, no blame game, just pointedly appropriate and helpful...helps her not offend you further. Brilliant, wish I'd thought of it! Ooh, a nice, "Hi, neighbour card..." with it would further soften the situation and allow for conversation and friendship.

Honey, you can always "drive the nail home" and shut the door forever, but opportunities at diplomacy and community building will take you further. The Bible suggests that a kind word turns away wrath. Sometimes a kind word sets a prisoner free.

 

[cane]

attach a chain link fence on her side of your fence using your existing 4x4s. It will look funny but will work. Check out craigslist for some used chain link.

 

[blackshadow]

Thanks for all the advise.

 

[amandakay2]

I agree give her the appropriate screws but if she continues to use the wrong ones then maybe get police involved

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[khplaw]

The box of appropriate screws was a brilliant idea, it's both obvious and neutral, no blame game, just pointedly appropriate and helpful...helps her not offend you further. Brilliant, wish I'd thought of it! Ooh, a nice, "Hi, neighbour card..." with it would further soften the situation and allow for conversation and friendship.

Honey, you can always "drive the nail home" and shut the door forever, but opportunities at diplomacy and community building will take you further. The Bible suggests that a kind word turns away wrath. Sometimes a kind word sets a prisoner free.

AMEN to that!